This letter was written as a result of the increased trauma related stress I had been feeling as a direct result of the repeated harassment, stalking, criminal activity, and the systemic failures or willingness to address such serious acts such as REPEATED identity theft.
Judge Roberts REFUSED to accept the letter during my hearing on Monday January 28, 2013, and denied gateway motion for a motion to be heard on this matter.
COMMOMWEALTH OF MASSACHUSETTS
Plymouth and Brockton Family Court
Judge Lisa Roberts
Dear Judge Roberts, January
25, 2013
RE: Bonetzky-Joseph v Joseph
Docket No: PL06
D0566-DV1
Dear Judge Roberts,
I am writing to you in hopes of your assistance in
this case which is has become very traumatic for me.
Under the American Disabilities Act (ADA), I am
requesting the court to appoint a lawyer to assist me in preparing, managing,
and handling of my appeal. I am
requesting a lawyer with specific expertise in areas of appeals, mental health,
trauma, child custody, and domestic abuse.
I am also requesting under the ADA, that the court
place restrictions on Attorney Arabasz conduct.
I am requesting the court order a comprehensive set of guidelines for his
methods of ethical and professional communications in light of the history of
the combative nature of his correspondences.
Attorney Arabasz has also verbally assaulted me as reported to Judge
Sebatis in a restraining order hearing in 2006, substantiated by multiple third
party witnesses and I believe he may have been reprimanded for his conduct
based on what had transpired. He has engaged in gaslighting tactics and
bullying as reported to the courts numerous times with no further actions. He
has acquired my personal information unlawfully and refuses to explain how he
attained the nonpublic information and obstructed justice on numerous occasions.
He has intimidated witnesses as also reported to the courts. For these reasons,
since the courts do not feel his actions require any further disciplinary
actions, I am requesting a third party be appointed to mediate in any
communications with Attorney Arabasz on top of the guidelines in regards to his
conduct in correspondences with me.
To add to why the courts should grant this request,
Attorney Arabasz and Mr. Joseph have engaged in tactics since Sept 2007 by
their own testimonies that demonstrate I undisputedly meet these qualifications
under the ADA or they would not have gone to the extreme they have gone through
to sever my relationship short of completely terminating my rights with my
children since 2007.
Attorney Arabasz has stated these facts and desires
numerous times under oath and via his motions to terminate all contact between
the children and myself including terminating visitation during multiple court
sessions that the courts repeatedly found to be credible.
You are aware or should have been aware that this
case began as a domestic violence case in 2005 and this court has been repeated
reminded of the duress it has caused me. The abuse I endured and witnessed by
the children (as documented) has escalated over the years via domestic violence
by proxy.
I am a human being and a mother
who loves her children deeply but has been almost completely deprived of her
children for over 5 years. I have not seen my children since August 3, 2011. I would not be normal if I were
not upset and distraught over that alone.
I lost custody via ex-parte in September 2007 after being forced to lift
a restraining order in order to get the arrears in child support owed as
documented in court records. I have been pretty much shut out of my children's
lives completely since Sept 2007.
As a protective mother trying to
protect her children from abuse, I went from having a restraining order to
being forced to lift it to almost never seeing your children again for no just
reason.
I have missed ALL of my three
daughters birthdays, first day of school, first dance, holidays, vacations,
school volunteering since 2007. My youngest daughter, Kelly, is 9. That means I
have already missed out on HALF her life. I am not a drug addict. I am not an
alcoholic. I was and still am an
upstanding citizen in the community despite Attorney Arabasz and his clients
attempt to cause deliberate and malicious harm to me. I do my best to volunteer
in the community including hospice and domestic abuse and have won numerous
awards for my volunteerism over the years which tends bring me a renewed sense
of healing from my own traumas. My children and I cannot get back those
formative years we have missed. They are
gone forever, never to return. I am
speechless in my ability to describe the pain and anguish I feel over this
injustice alone.
Over that time, as documented through the courts, I
have endured numerous repeated serious abuses that I have come to the court
pleading for help with no prevail. I am
a human being who can take being abused only for so long. I have suffered serious repeated unrelenting undue
stresses, many which are criminal in nature, that have caused health issues.
When the trial arrived, I prayed and hoped for justice to finally prevail for
the sake of my children.
I have been severed from my children’s lives with
little to no contact since August 3, 2011 and even longer since September 2007.
The verdict of August 2012 from the trial was devastating to me and I worried
the about the long term negative impact and implications it would have on my
children as medical research demonstrates and the most telling is the ongoing
ACE Study funded by the CDC.
As a result, I am currently being treated for ADHD, Legal
Abuse Syndrome, and trauma-related stress and my treatment since trial has
increased. Symptoms of trauma-related stress include: gastro-intestinal issues;
anxiety and fear especially when exposed to situations reminding me of the many
repeated traumatic events; trouble sleeping; trouble eating; low energy; memory
problems; including difficulty remembering aspects of the trauma; a “scattered”
feeling and inability to focus on work or daily activities; emotional “numbness,” in which causes me to feel
withdrawn, disconnected, or different from others; and protectiveness of loved
ones or fear for their safety.
I did not suffer any of these symptoms until after I married
an abusive partner and endured years of abuse. I
was a victim that the system failed to protect and now I suffer greatly. I was a fantastic mother and even the father
had no questions to my ability to care for or mother these children until he
got what he wanted and stole financially through the divorce. However, the system has stripped away all my
ability to love, nurture, and parent my three daughters who need me greatly.
As numerous medical studies and research suggest,
being subject to the repeated abuses is
a trigger that causes these symptoms I feel. If the abuse was removed and my
ability to parent would be restored, the symptoms would also dissipate and the
return to normalcy attained.
I have been fighting and defending my rights to
see, reunite, and restore some sort of normalcy in my life with my children for
over seven and half years. I have been defending my rights to privacy to not
have my personal information repeatedly stolen, my rights to not be harassed,
repeatedly threatened, stalked, and intimidated.
I have been defending myself three times in
criminal court as well as in the community of the charges for a crime of
stealing money that legally belonged to me on a house that legally belonged to
me.
I have had to defend my right to call for a well
check on my children which was legally advised and have since been threatened
by my ex and his lawyer for MORE criminal harassment charges if I attempt to
contact the children via text messages.
I have had many of my private accounts altered with
my addresses changed to an address that I have never lived at, but so happens
to be the address where my ex-husband runs his financial services
business. This occurred with my home owners
and his attempts to steal a $30k insurance check and threatened two police
officers in his attempts; my health insurance; and more recently discovered
DURING trial, my IRA which was changed by me ex-husband acting as securities
advisor as documented with records and not only that but receiving my
statements for three years and opening my mail as evidenced at trial. This is
not to mention the acquisition of my mortgage loan application by Attorney
Arabasz and his client with no recourse or answers to how they attained the
document which is not a public record.
This is not to mention my ex stole my father’s
entire retirement account by committing a securities transaction without a
license as evidenced to you during your trial.
I have had my assault and battery evidence
disappear from the Plympton Police department and waived in my face by Attorney
Arabasz which caused issues for the Police department who admitted wrongdoing
as a result.
I have had my phone conversations illegally tape
recorded prior to Judge Menno’s order. This does not preclude the acts and the
wrongdoing prior to the order. As noted by the Plymouth Police Department,
Attorney Arabasz could not provide any document or evidence to substantiate it
was conducted lawfully prior to the order.
I have had my tires slashed, identity stolen four
times, office broken into, just to name a small amount of issues I have had to
face with many of them being admittedly perpetrated against me by my ex-husband
and his lawyer. All of these acts were
committed over a four year period which can get very stressful, exhausting,
taxing on the mind, body and spirit of best equipped and intentioned
individuals. The fact that I feel
injustice has occurred in my case negatively affecting my children has
unfortunately become now a new trigger causing these to render my ability to
properly prepare for my Appeal impossible.
This is not to include a serious auto accident
which caused me to not work for over 9mo.
It is difficult for most lawyers to meet deadlines,
know what to prepare, how to prepare it, when, and with right citings of case
laws and arguments to use in the case for an Appeal. It even more difficult to
do it pro se. However, it has become
near impossible to complete when faced with these triggers and impairments causing
these unbearable symptoms of the trauma-related stress.
I have recently learned there is a additional term
for what I suffer called “Legal Abuse Syndrome”. As defined by expert Karin
Huffer,
“LEGAL ABUSE
SYNDROME (LAS) is a form of post
traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It is a psychic injury, not a mental
illness. It is a personal injury that develops in individuals assaulted
by ethical violations, legal abuses, betrayals, and fraud. Abuse of power and
authority and a profound lack of accountability in our courts have become
rampant, compounding an already stressful experience.
This stress can and does lead to
physical illness. AMA statistics show that around 85% of all physical illness
is directly attributable to stress. Legal Abuse Syndrome is a public health
menace in this country. It leads to massive medical intervention costs,
burdens insurance companies, and adds to Medicare and Social Security costs.
Most painfully, it crushes the brilliance and creativity of its
sufferers. Legal Abuse Syndrome is detrimental to all of society,
and nobody is immune.
… When litigants are unable to get
fair resolution to their issues, when the court dysfunction further adds to the
litigant's burden, when no amount of actual case law compels an equitable
outcome, litigants suffer often disabling levels of stress. When further
attempts to achieve redress fail, litigants display the hallmark signs of Legal
Abuse Syndrome (LAS).”
The fact that my ex-husband testified under oath admitting not complying with court
order, has not intention of complying
with court order and then the court not taking swift and punitive action
was devastating to my very being.
My need for an attorney over any other litigant is
simple. As a result of the disabilities
and impairments I suffer from, I am unable to do what is needed for the Appeal.
As noted, it took at least 5-6 appearances, not to
mention numerous phone calls with the Family Court Clerks Office just to file
the one Motion for Stay which was initially attempted to be filed in August
2012. Clearly, if I am unable to file this motion correctly taking over 4
months, there is no possible way I can handle the Appeal as a pro se litigant,
and that should be a sign of my inabilities to handle such a case on my own.
All I want is some sort of normalcy in my life and
to be a good mother to my children. Since this court has denied me that, it has
unfortunately caused unbearable stresses as described above whether the
intention was deliberate or not.
The bottom line, I suffer from these traumatic stresses
causing a host of these physical issues as stated above. I also understand that under the ADA, it is a
civil rights statute so it is strictly enforced and rights of immunity do not
apply.
Under the American Disabilities Act (ADA), I am
requesting the courts to appoint a lawyer to assist me in my Appeal as stated
above. These are rights I am guaranteed under the Constitution under the
American Disabilities Act.
I thank you for your assistance in this matter and
I sincerely apologize for not submitting this request sooner.
Thank
you,
