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Then to wake up seeing a slew of media outlet reports about the connection between domestic violence in mass shootings was almost a shocker, and I must say that I actually felt relief.
As you may gage from my blog, the topic of domestic violence and other forms of abuse are near and dear to me.
What I see happening since the #metoo and downfall of Weinstein, I feel that for the FIRST time we are addressing the REAL issues behind our societal problems, mass shootings, Etc rooted in the systemic failures in addressing abuse. Sighhhhh
Firstly, almost every human being on this planet has experienced some form of mental health issue. those with mental health issues most likely will not commit a violent Act. The most common violent Act is suicide.
We are a culture that is numb that has normalized certain patterns of abuse. The pleas and voices of survivors are routinely judged, shamed, ousted, and re-abused. Hence, why most are silenced or never leave.
Advocates and experts have been outspoken on these topics. Some have had their lives threatened and others lives destroyed trying to speak this truth.
Fox news LA did an expose on the corruption in child custody cases involving abuse. the producer of the series had a mysterious hiking accident and died.
"...there is one disturbing, yet under-reported pattern that is painfully clear when it comes to mass violence and terrorism: Domestic violence. Many of the men who commit mass public attacks were accused of abusing the women and children in their lives."1
My questions to you POTUS:
How is someone with a violent abusive domestic violence history who murders 26 people a mental health issue? Again, domestic violence is about power and control. I assume something you know quite well based on you treatment of women and minorities.
Why is this NOT a systemic failure of addressing domestic violence in the USA? You saying nothing about the rampant gun violence and domestic violence adds insult to injury.
Targeting and killing people ... from my understanding because your ex and family were there ... has to to with power and control, and less to do with "mental health" as you claim.
Here's some fixes for you to consider ...
- fix the way courts deal with domestic violence.
- enforce laws and protect our children instead of legally trafficking 58,000 of them annually to documented abusers
- stop granting custody to up to 80% of "documented" abusers especially child molesters who somehow are gaining at higher rates. Massachusetts ranks higher than national average
- stop sympathizing with abusers and murderers and making excuses for their behavior
- implement the "Quincy model" and save taxpayers $500 Billion a year while enhancing protections for victims
- stop silencing victims #metoo
- stop normalizing abuse, rape, violence
- Stop the gender bias especially where there is abuse
DO THAT .... and we would have a safer USA.
Want to know why I am passionate about this?
as someone who has worked advocating for survivors domestic abuse, sex abuse and child abuse
As someone who works tirelessly in the healing arts to help survivors of abuse and those traumatized by the failures of the system ...
I will say it again, this IS NOT a "mental health" issue. This is a power and control issue which is riddled with systemic failures to stop.
Your behavior is repugnant to all survivors like myself. I would have thought you and your aides would have taken some notes on all the #metoo and downfall of likes of those like the Harvey Weinstein's of the world.
As President, you are supposed to lead the people of USA not just the select male, white, privileged American as they are the true minority.
I beg of you to start leading this country and to stop normalizing abuse and violence which leads to tragedies like yesterday in Texas.
Be sure to check out the Washington Post Article published 11/7/17: The Texas shooting shows that domestic violence is a national security issue
What I am feeling, I struggle to put into words. All I know is my throat relaxed, and my shoulders sank. I have been fighting this battle personally for over 20yrs. Sadly, because I had children with my abuser, my story will never end.
WHY? Because abusers will lie, cheat, manipulate, steal for control of their victims. I pray one day, truth will be revealed in my story for the sake of my children and all who aim to cause harm are held accountable.
For the sake of my children and all the children of the world, I pray this is just the beginning of the downfall for all humans out for power and control especially of women and children.
I can not change what is, but what I can do is work on how I react to my abuser and all the rest who trigger me.
He will NEVER steal my soul. Knowing this which took years for me to see, gives me my power back. That is what helped me in my healing instead of feeling stuck and dive into drugs, alcohol, or dead as many do because the system fails and silences victims.
I feel after so much darkness, I can finally see the dawn. The light ALWAYS returns.
I'm looking forward to more unveiling of truths in order for all of us to continue on the path authenticity, personal truth, and healing.
I look forward to seeing a new earth filled with unity, acceptance, peace and love.